I’ve always known on-the-job stress.
As an assignment manager, I worried about missing a big story or crucial interview, sending the news crew to the wrong location and various other scenarios that involved me ending up in the news directors office for singlehandedly destroying the ratings and making us look like losers on the air. It rarely happened, but the stress existed just the same. When Governor Lawton Chiles died on my watch when I worked at WFLA in Tampa, I stressed about getting it on the air first. It was a constant state of wanting to be first, and best. The sense of urgency was constant. No stress there, right?
As a news and special projects producer, I worried that my words weren’t powerful enough, my intro was too weak or I lacked the great video needed to keep the viewers interest. It was stressful to know that the exclusive interview it took two months to land could bail at the last minute leaving little if any time recover.
While managing media partnerships In the newspaper industry, the worries were also constant. Different, but constant: Will our news partners air our content, will we collaborate successfully, and will I ever get these print reporters to understand that multimedia reporting is not an option but a requirement?
Well, now I’m dealing with user-generated content and the game has changed tremendously. I’m managing content from people I cannot control in any capacity. They are nothing more than a screen name and an e-mail address. Some are even less. I don’t know their intentions or whether or not they’re who they say they are. Quite honestly, I’m not certain about much of anything in this particular space.
New stresses consists of relentless trollers intent on wreaking havoc on the community and calling me out in public blogs and making crude references to my ability (or inability, in their anonymous eyes) to do my job by faceless names who really have no real idea what my job entails.
I recently found a kindred spirit in a post by blogger Jeremiah Owyang: Social Punishment: The Bozo Feature .
In the comments area, I found Marc Meyer who wrote that he’d actually received a death threat from a user. There is a level of insanity in that but it is real. Someone took his role as a community manager seriously enough to wish him dead. Sad, but true.
A member of my community indicated in an e-mail to my boss recently that my moderating policies have caused her “undue emotional stress.” Someone else warned that he would continue to bring a flurry of problems through his posts and purposely disrupt and even attempt to ruin the community if I did not completely remove another member from the community. And just yesterday someone commented that I must be “sexually repressed” because their blog posts riddled with sexual innuendo and inappropriate content had been removed.
I am not making this up.
Are these things worthy of stress? Maybe, maybe not. But it’s important to note that this kind of thing can really get to a person. So, if you’re a community manager dealing with any of these issues and wish to start a support group, I’m in!










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September 5, 2008 at 8:43 pm
Patrick
“And just yesterday someone commented that I must be “sexually repressed” because their blog posts riddled with sexual innuendo and inappropriate content had been removed.”
Believe me when I say I sympathize.
September 5, 2008 at 8:59 pm
emersondirect
Angela, Thanks for the trackback, I wish it could have been under different circumstances but sadly it is not. As a community manager you hold yourself accountable for the actions of a community that you moderate and are a part of to a certain extent. Which is a noble thing when you come right down to it.
The problem is, that your users have no such accountability and if they did, would not behave that way. Let’s face it, people who choose to not play by the rules ultimately-bad things happen to them. I know this and believe it. I also have to trust that you and I are doing what is in the best interest of the community and the brand that we are responsible for and not the best interest some times of ourselves. If it was, I would have said some things I might have regretted later but would have made me feel better.
Just remember that if it gets heavy, just turn it off and walk away for a bit and remember as well that some of these people have no lives beyond your community. I applaud you and you have my utmost respect.
September 5, 2008 at 10:22 pm
Steph
I think you just described my life at the end there…
September 5, 2008 at 11:14 pm
Mark O.
Oh, Angela. We have so much to talk about.
I’ve been the Community Manager for Buzznet for a while now and I can’t even begin to list or explain the abuse I’ve gotten from people. Harassment, hundreds of angry emails, death threats, homophobic rants (I’m openly gay on the site), people pretending to be me on the site in order to make people angry at me, attempted hackings of my page…..the list doesn’t end there.
I’d like to think I run a pretty tight ship, but it’s a transparent one. I am vocal and open about my actions and motivations at all times so users KNOW what I’m doing and why I’m doing it. I’m a huge fan of open conversation in the community, even when it’s backfired and I’ve bit off more than I can chew.
But the kicker? Having people call (ON THE TELEPHONE) to our main line to complain about moderation. I’m serious. We’ve had people take their problems off the internet and call us to complain about us removing their content. Apparently, private messages and emails weren’t enough. It was unsettling.
I find the way to deal with the stress is to:
a) get angry and release my rage for 10 seconds BEFORE responding or reacting online
b) have a sense of humor about the whole thing.
Option B really helps.
September 6, 2008 at 12:16 pm
Angela Connor
@emersondirect – turning off and walking away IS helpful. I should practice it more often.
@Patrick- Sympathy appreciated.
@Steph- You’re in my thoughts…
@Mark O. – I’d like to know more about how you release that anger.
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priya
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if i stress in my all subject in my school .wat do i have to for my life education sometimes i want to finish my assesment im relly wants some help to make me strong to finish my all assesment.
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