If you’re ever in need of some interesting reading, just ask me for the keys to my inbox. You’d certainly want to grab a bag of popcorn and a soda because once you start reading, you won’t be able to stop.
The emails that community managers receive from members run the gamut. They can be comical, threatening, pathetic, sad, sometimes refreshing but more often than not, downright disturbing.
I ran across Smiley, in the comments section of this post written by Martin Reed, author of the blog Community Spark.
Smiley shared an e-mail he’d received from a user that was so familiar to me I couldn’t help but laugh. Here it is:
“You are making more ******* rules tom than the marie celeste did when it sunk which is exactly what you will do …i hate to tell you that i have around 300 isps and can change and am on as we talk on this message ..so whats your ******* point ….you are so insecure cause you no that you are not and never will be good enough for holly ..your hollys parents will be horrified by the looks of you a neo nazi punk skinhead with pink walllpaper ,looking like a raving poofta ….in your picture ….as i say its no point banning cause we are all doing what i do anyway is change isp at a flick so let your forum run down and holly will go running to a man in london she used to see and still is ..”
Geez! What this tells me is that Smiley is managing his community well. But see what we’re up against? I still can’t wrap my arms around the mindset of a person who lives to destroy an online community. I find it mind boggling.
So, after i finished laughing at Smiley’s plight I checked my BlackBerry and found my own little gem.
Here it is:
Hello Angela,
I want to discuss the reason why I was banned? I got banned because I copied what _____ said to me? She made a public life threat on your site, and I get banned for it?
I suggest you ban ______, or you might want to start looking for a new job.
Talk about being direct! I will look into this person’s claim, of course but wow…I might lose my job for banning someone, who for the record , I didn’t even ban.
I’d like to read some of your e-mails. So if you’re up for it, post one (or more) in the comments area below, and let’s have a good chuckle.
We all know that in this business, a sense of humor is a must!










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October 15, 2008 at 4:31 pm
Steph
I love those–I especially love the regression to three year old logic. “I only said x because someone else said it first, but I’m not a tattletale so I won’t report them but if you ban me you have to ban everyone else too.” ….Right.
Seriously? Just because someone else did it first does not make it okay. Odds are, we’ve removed their comment too, or didn’t see it yet. And not telling us about it doesn’t make your behavior any more right. Yeesh.
October 20, 2008 at 7:04 pm
Patrick
Here’s a few random ones from this year:
“OK , I guess it’s not a place for me. I won’t be back to bother you.
It’s really unbelievable how uptight you Americans really are…land of the free , my *** .”
“Well Thanks For The Notice You Dirty Irish ****bag!”
“Why The **** Would You Send Me This You ******` ****** Bag?
You & That Other ***** ***** Must Be In On It!
I`m Over At Now, Look Up .
That Forum Has Class, You Pushin` Pennies *****!”
(last two from the same guy).
Yay community!
Patrick
October 29, 2008 at 7:12 am
AlisonM
Just found your blog Angela and love it, keep it coming! I get a lot of hostility, I don’t know where to start
Thick skin indeed is a mandatory requirement.
Aside from being threatened with being reported to sub-standard current affairs programs I think my favourite was being threatened that we’d be reported to the Humans Right Commission. Maybe not laughable but it was for asking a member to remove their (inappropriate) signature.
There aren’t (yet) many community managers in Australia so it’s nice to be able to read this blog and relate to others in the same position.
November 29, 2008 at 3:24 pm
Mr Woc
Hi there
Just ran across your blog and saw this post felt I had to comment.
Its one of lifes little mysterys why people send that kind of abuse to us as community owners, I have to say ive had far worse lol.
I had someone who questioned my sexuallity said he would find where i lived and then close my site down, in among several Fs and Cs lol.
I also have been told im being taken to the european court of human rights for privacy issues or something, you couldnt even make it up lol.
We as owners dont even pay any attention to these people anymore, theres a bit of armchair general involved, where people feel as though they can say what they like from behind a keyboard, I reported the person who abused our site, and they were dealt with by their ISP.
Woc
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